Tuesday, August 16, 2005

Yea, he called last night and we bitched about work! Nah, he is not gay, just a good worthy friend to be with, engaged to be married next year =) Nice person.

As we were just catching up, he mentioned that there's alot of things happening back there. How he looked forward to the end of the year, then he can forget about his project. (after end of year, not in his care anymore)

Then he told me the reason why i am blogging today. A female ex-colleague got advanced stage cancer. Dunno what type of cancer. Another ex-colleague whom I go la kopi with, her father died on National Day.

It just gives me lots of thoughts you know.
how the cancer stricken ex colleague was a mean person, seemingly. I dint' really get to talk to her much, so i cant really say that she's really mean. The few instances I have seen her converse, quite nasty you know. But she could be nasty just so to get her job done. Poor her.. why did she discover the problem at such a late stage?! My goodness I hope it is not those female cancers which is detectable at an early stage provided you go for your tests faithfully once a year.

the other colleague, I used to lament at her for dumping work on me. Then later I realised, she had no choice cos if she dont delegate her work, she probably not get things done and the company would not be run as efficiently. That's why we started to become kopi-partners. I was just thinking about her the National Day past, wondering how is her dad doing. Last I heard, he was warded to ICU, 2 weeks before National Day. Then suddenly, I heard from that Colleague, her dad passed away. She must have had it hard. Death is never particularly a nice thing to deal with.

That bring me to the topic why I wanna blog. Many a times, we often neglect the ones beside us. Eg, how my relationship with my Dad seemingly deteriorated, but of course we still talk but never much in depth. Not like we used to. Probably that is part of growing up. I think my Dad is particularly full of wisdom, what he told me before are being echoed by some of my lecturers I meet these days. Mom, is streetsmart, very wise too for she had seen the world. But then again, I wasnt particularly close to her before, only now that Im grown we can talk a little.

After my friend put down the phone, It just left me thinking. How, we often take our loved ones for granted. And how suddenly, they might not be with us. And we never know when. For instance, people who suddenly died of a heart attack and they had never had heart attack before. The first attack was the fatal one and only.

Not that my parents are not healthy. They are. I hope they still are. BUt what I am trying to get at is that, you never know when the day would come. So treasure what you have, spend sometime with them, give in to them once in a while.

I hope my new found belief will enable me to get along with somebody else's parent whom I seemingly am at loggerheads with. After all, she too is somebody else's parent isn't she?

I hope I will grit my teeth when she says something sarcastic, if she pokes fun at me, I will laugh it off.

I hope... I hope I can do it.